Group for singles
Cognitive-behavioral therapy group for singles.
Start date: March 18, Thursday evening.
Weekly
Ages 35-45 some flexibilty please call
This is an open group max 8 members,
which welcomes single men and women in a relationship or not .
Group members will be actively involved in the selection of agenda items topics, and will be active participants during group discussions.
Group therapy does not exclude individaul therapy
Agenda items to be addressed might include:
· Coping with loneliness and isolation
· Building and maintaining self-esteem
· Breaking free from unhelpful “rules” of social interaction and dating
· Managing unrealistic expectations about dating
· Navigating internet dating
· Coping with comparisons (“They’re getting married/having kids…why aren’t I?”)
· Effectively communicating with potential romantic partners
· Meeting new people
New members may join at any time. For additional information about joining the group, please call 927-817-6008
Advice for Singles
How to meet the right partner
Clients often tell me that they are frustrated that they have not yet met the right partner, and wonder why. They want to be in a relationship and are frustrated that it’s not happening for them.
I’ve found that navigating the world of dating and relationships today takes equal measures of guts, smarts, patience, and a strong dose of optimism. A lot of energy is spent putting on the best face when two people meet for the first time – yet frequently psychological barriers keep us from achieving the objective we so often desire.
If not being in a relationship is holding you back from having the life you crave, let’s work together to:
• Set realistic goals - what are you looking for in a relationship, and what is getting in the way of achieving it?
• Take a trip down memory lane. Let’s review your past relationships –
• What has worked and what hasn’t?
• Is there something that is holding you back from having a healthy relationship?
Let’s make an honest appraisal of the past and make sure it’s not impacting your present and future.
• Create a dating plan that suits your level of comfort and commitment. There are so many choices today for single people in regards to how to meet a partner.
Let’s create a plan that will work for you.
• Learn how to be yourself. It’s always best to be your true and honest self when starting a new relationship. However, many of us have insecuritities that hold us back from letting our potential partners know who we really are.
I will equip you with tools to overcome shyness, fear of intimacy, and other potential stumbling blocks that may be inhibiting you from moving forward and getting what you want in a relationship.
• A little patience can go a long way - Finding the right relationship takes time. It’s important to try to stay positive and optimistic and learn from experiences and mistakes. Feeling desperate or hopeless will only derail the process and make you feel unhappy. Limit the pressure you put on yourself, hang in there, and try to enjoy the ride.
Are You The One For Me?
You are in a new relationship, it is seemingly going well, it is getting serious, yet there is something that is holding you back from making that ultimate commitment.
Newly Single Through Divorce
If you are in the process of going through a divorce or are recently divorced, you are experiencing a time in your life filled with transition and uncertainty.
Are you the one for me?
This is a topic that often brings people into therapy. You are in a new relationship, it is seemingly going well, it is getting serious, yet there is something that is holding you back from making that ultimate commitment.
• Love and Sex are not enough to sustain a long term relationship.
This is a mistake so many couples make…thinking love or sex are enough. There are many ingredients that go into a healthy relationship – and love and sex are only two of them. It’s crucial to evaluate other aspects of the relationship that are equally important such as friendship, values, religion, communication skills.
• Something feels wrong.
It’s important to listen to both your head and your heart when making a commitment. If something feels wrong, it probably is. It’s important to evaluate what is not working well for you. Could this be your own psychological baggage, or is there really a problem in this relationship that needs to be addressed.
• Serious unresolved problems while dating will result in serious unresolved problems in marriage.
I often hear, ‘we were unsure if we wanted children while we were dating, and I just assumed it would work itself out when we became married.’ This is an all too common trap that we must beware of. Couples need to discuss crucial life issues such as whether they want to have children, views on religion, values, and economics prior to saying ‘I do”.
• Don’t fall in love with someone’s potential.
Unfortunately this is an all too common trap. We must be aware that sad as it is, often what we see is what we get. If your partner has a drinking or drug problem, is an underachiever or underemployed, is a jealous person, has anger issues, or is emotionally unavailable – stop, drop and roll! These problems need to be addressed and resolved before you make that commitment.
Couples
I Follow Dr Dattilio,
Harvard Medical School, model for couple therapy
www.dattilio.com. Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy with Couples and Families: A Comprehensive Guide for Clinicians.2009 ~ Frank M. Dattilio PhD ABPP (Author), Aaron T. Beck MD (Foreword). Bob Leahy says I want to recommend a new book by our fellow-ACT member, Frank Dattilio, Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy with Couples and Families A Comprehensive Guide for Clinicians . Frank is one of the leading cognitive therapists in the world. He has been at the front-lines in developing strategies for dealing with families and couples. A frequent speaker throughout the world, Frank is also presenting his work at the forthcoming ABCT conference in a few weeks in New York City. Congratulations to our friend and colleague!!!!.
Couples and PTSD
Relationships can serve as an important resource for recovery after a traumatic event. The "Couples HOPE" study, located in Boston, MA, and Toronto, Canada, is designed to evaluate Cognitive-Behavioral Couple Therapy (CBCT), an intervention for couples in which one partner has Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). CBCT for PTSD consists of 15-sessions of couple therapy focused on improving both PTSD symptoms and the couple's relationship. http://www.couplestherapyforptsd.com/home